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My goal is to share with you information that will be beneficial to your prayer life, faith walk, and enrich your relationships. This is our first weeks session of content. You can join us each week if you would like. This study is not just subject to wives.
Topics of Discussion:
A - How to be a godly woman and what that looks like
B - Our identity in Christ
C - How we view ourselves
D - How to Grow in our identity as wives
E - How to pray like a godly woman and what it looks like
A- How to be a godly woman and what that looks like.
Take a second and write down what you think a godly woman looks like before you continue reading and see the definition. Compare and contrast your original thoughts to what the Biblical definition is. What is different and does your perspective change?
Scriptures and attributes:
1. SEEK GOD FIRST: Reject the lie that anything or anyone else can satisfy you.
“But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. So
do not worry about tomorrow; for tomorrow will care for itself. Each day has enough trouble of its
own.” – Matthew 6:33-34
1 Chronicles 16:8-12, Psalm 9:10, Psalm 27:1-5, Psalm 34:10-14, Psalm 40:16, Jeremiah
29:11-13, Zephaniah 2:3, Matthew 6:25-34
2. SPEAK FAITHFULLY: Love others with godly wisdom, boldness, and kindness as a faithful
completer of others. Open your mouth for the mute, for the rights of all the unfortunate. Open your mouth, judge
righteously, and defend the rights of the afflicted and needy. – Proverbs 31:8-9
She opens her mouth in wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. – Proverbs
Psalm 19:14, Proverbs 12:18, Proverbs 13:3, Proverbs 16:13, Proverbs 20:15, Proverbs 24:26
3. SHOW TRUE BEAUTY: Bodies deteriorate; persons develop. Invest in that which lasts.
Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised. –
Likewise, I want women to adorn themselves with proper clothing, modestly and discreetly, not
with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly garments, but rather by means of good works, as
is proper for women making a claim to godliness. – 1 Timothy 2:9-10
1 Samuel 16:7, Proverbs 11:22, 1 Peter 3:3-5
4. STAY HUMBLE: Be constantly aware of pride and selfishness. Don’t think less of yourself but
think of yourself less.
“Has not my hand made all these things, and so they came into being?” declares the LORD.
“These are the ones I look on with favor: those who are humble and contrite in spirit, and who
tremble at my word.” – Isaiah 66:2
Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as
more important than yourselves; do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also
for the interests of others. Have this attitude in yourselves which was also in Christ Jesus. –
Psalm 141:5, Proverbs 3:5-6, Proverbs 12:1, Micah 6:8, John 15:5, 1 Peter 3:8-9,1 Peter 5:5-7
5. SERVE THE LORD: Set your mind on eternal things, serve the eternal King, and live to
please only Him.
“He who loves his life loses it, and he who hates his life in this world will keep it to life eternal. If
anyone serves Me, he must follow Me; and where I am, there My servant will be also; if anyone
serves Me, the Father will honor him.” – John 12:25-26
For am I now seeking the favor of men, or of God? Or am I striving to please men? If I were still
trying to please men, I would not be a bond-servant of Christ. – Galatians 1:10
Whatever you do, do your work heartily, as for the Lord rather than for men. – Colossians 3:23
Psalm 16:11, Psalm 84:10-12, Mark 10:42-45, 2 Corinthians 5:10, Philippians 1:21, Hebrews
6:10, 1 Peter 2:21-23
A Part 2-
Let’s take a look at what it means to be godly and where it talks about it in scripture.
My original thoughts of a godly woman was a woman that was perfect and never made any mistakes. As
I came to know Christ and have a relationship with the creator, I realized how wrong this was and how the
enemy had put this lie in my head with the truths of my past self. Because of what Jesus did, we can come to God with confidence and boldness in the darkest times of lives and receive the mercy and grace He has to offer us (Hebrews 4:14-16). We serve such an amazing God!
Godly living is described as conforming to the laws and wishes of God; devout; pious.
coming from God; divine. Also referred to as righteous living.
The Bible has a great deal to say about godliness for both men and women. Most references to
godliness do not differentiate between the attributes of a godly man and a godly woman. Both
men and women, if they belong to Christ by faith, have exhibited a godly sorrow that “produces
repentance leading to salvation” (2 Corinthians 7:10). Without the gift of salvation by grace
through faith, no man or woman can be truly godly. The word godly in the Bible means “pious”
or “holy.” But piety and holiness are only achieved when we are made new creations in Christ (2
Corinthians 5:17). Born-again Christians are indwelled by the Holy Spirit who produces
godliness in us as He sanctifies us and molds us into the image of Christ. By His grace we are
able to “live self-controlled, upright and godly lives in this present age” (Titus 2:12).
Godliness manifests itself in our lives when we are in control of our appetites and desires. We
live in a worldly culture and must resist ungodly influences around us. One way a godly woman
distinguishes herself from the world is by her self-control. She practices restraint and does not
give free rein to uninhibited emotions, attitudes, words, and appetites.
The godly woman controls her thoughts, taking them captive and making them obedient to
Christ (2 Corinthians 10:5). She controls her emotions and doesn’t allow them to control her.
She controls her appetites and doesn’t display an unbridled passion for food and drink. She also
controls her tongue, which James tells us is like “a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the
body. It corrupts the whole person, sets the whole course of his life on fire, and is itself set on
fire by hell” (James 3:6).
This means gossip and unwholesome talk. We need women who are kind & gentle. There are
enough tough & cruel women in this world. The speech of a godly woman is one that edifies
and encourages rather than tearing down with idle gossip. The godly woman also does not
allow profanity and “unwholesome talk” to come out of her mouth (Ephesians 4:29).
Scripture says that a godly woman dresses modestly and adorns herself with “good deeds,
appropriate for women who profess to worship God” (1 Timothy 2:9–10). Christian women
should be able to see the vanity inherent in the allurements of a world “under the control of the
evil one” (1 John 5:19). A godly woman is not fooled by the lies that try to convince her that
attractiveness, personal worth, and fulfillment are found in physical, external beauty. The godly
woman’s affections are fixed on Christ, her Savior, and she makes every effort to follow His
example of good works. She has a heavenly focus, and she seeks to adorn herself with
godliness, not worldliness.
Your Identity comes from Christ and that is where we are to find our value and worth.
Being a godly woman involves living in “purity and reverence” (1 Peter 3:2). The godly woman
knows that her beauty does not come “from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles
and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes” (verse 3). Rather, she focuses on her “inner self,
the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. This is the
way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to adorn themselves” (verses
4–5). Peter speaks of the relationship between a godly woman and her husband, referencing
Sarah as an example to be emulated: “They submitted themselves to their own husbands, like
Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her lord. You are her daughters if you do what is
right and do not give way to fear” (verses 5–6).
The godly woman trains herself to resist the world’s temptations as she practices piety. Like an
athlete who uses repetition to become proficient in her sport, the godly woman continually fills
her mind with the truths of Scripture. In addition, she appeals regularly to the Spirit to help her
train her thoughts, attitudes, words, and desires to reflect those of her beloved Lord. “For bodily
exercise profits a little, but godliness is profitable for all things, having promise of the life that
now is and of that which is to come” (1 Timothy 4:8).
The godly woman has “sincere faith” like Eunice and Lois (2 Timothy 2:5). She is kind, like Ruth
(Ruth 1:8). She lives righteously, as Elizabeth did (Luke 1:5–6). She is of “noble character” and
seeks to follow the example set by the virtuous woman in Proverbs 31:10–31. She shows good
judgment, generosity, and prudence as did Abigail (1 Samuel 25).
B - Our identity in Christ
If you are to describe yourself to someone who does not know you how/what would you say?
Ex) I am a mom. I am a wife. I am a teacher. Etc
Think about this question and reflect.
Who do you think you are to God?
This question made me address many things in my faith and my thinking about God and myself.
Lies We Believe About Ourselves
If we’re honest with ourselves, we often feel insecure. Those who hide it best often feel it most.
But our insecurity is an invitation from God to escape the danger of false beliefs about who we
are and find true peace in who he is.
Identity as a Gift from God
At the heart of what it means to be a Christian is to receive a new identity. In Jesus, we do not
lose our true selves, but we become our true selves, only in him.
New Belonging in Jesus
Christ is our life
Not only the guarantee of it in heaven, but the down payment of it by the Spirit
now, as he lives in us. His joy becomes our joy; his love, our love; his peace, our peace; his
strength, our strength.
United to Jesus
We cannot experience anything greater than the fullness of union with Christ. Nothing reaches
higher or is more theologically comprehensive.
Citizens of Heaven
In Christ, we are fundamentally new, and belong to the people of heaven. The language and
values and customs and expectations of this world increasingly feel foreign to us. We have been
born again for another world, to a greater kind of existence.
C - How we view ourselves
Draw who we see in the mirror and write words that describe us around the image you draw.
What does this drawing reveal about yourself?
This exercise is to help address predisposed notions and ideas that are untrue
about ourselves and who we are in Christ.
How does this relate to our identity in Christ?
D - How to grow in our identity as a woman & wife
She Rests in God
. . . let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle
and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious. (1 Peter 3:4)
A woman who knows her God will put her hope in God and find her rest in God. She calms and
quiets her soul, and she does not flail and strive against the God who is her refuge and who
determines her circumstances.
Trusting God to be who he says that he is, she is still before him and waits patiently for him. She
does not seek to justify herself and exact revenge for the wrongs that have been done to her, for
her strong tower and refuge is the name of the Lord in whom she hopes. She waits for the Lord
(Psalm 37:7, 9, 34).
She Submits to Her Husband
For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to
their own husbands, as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. (1 Peter 3:5–6)
An overflow of a wife’s hope and rest in God is submission to her husband. Sarah submitted to
Abraham because she trusted in and obeyed God. Her submission to her husband was not due
to her reliance upon Abraham. Rather, her eyes were fixed on a trustworthy God who was
worthy of her submission. When a woman refuses to obey God’s command to submit to her
husband, she follows in the footsteps of Eve, the mother of her flesh. This muddies the gospel
that God designed to be showcased through her marriage.
She Is Fearless
And you are her children, if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening. (1 Peter
3:6) A woman who hopes in God is not afraid, because she knows her God. She is not afraid of the
path that her God has called her to walk. She is not afraid of sickness. She is not afraid of the
future. She is not afraid of death and dark valleys. She entrusts to God her children, her
marriage, and her ministry. She advances the kingdom through fearless submission to God’s
design for womanhood, marriage, motherhood, and ministry, because she hopes in God.
E -How to pray like a godly woman and what it looks like?
Your prayer live and practicing the traits of a godly woman will help you grow spiritually, in your
faith walk with God, and in your worldly relationships.
Be dedicated to praying and intentional with your time.
How to Pray?
And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind,
be alert and always keep on praying for all the saints. Pray also for me, that whenever I open
my mouth, words may be given me so that I will fearlessly make known the mystery of the
gospel. . . . — Ephesians 6:18-19
Here are some examples of what your prayer life can look like with intentional and dedicated
time to pray for specific things in life. You don’t have to stick to this specifically unless you want to.
If you already have a routine that’seven better, continue that or add more to it if you feel lead.
A Prayer for each Day:
Monday: Pray for your Family - Take time to pray for each member of your family. This includes
your own family, children, parents, grandparents, relatives, extended families. Give each member
to the Lord. Pray that He draws them "ever one step close" wherever they are in their
relationship with God. Be specific as you can as you pray that He will meet them at their point of
need.God decided in advance to adopt us into his own family by bringing us to himself through Jesus
Christ. This is what he wanted to do, and it gave him great pleasure. - Ephesians 1:5
Tuesday: Pray for your Church Family - Take time to pray for the members in your church, for
the elders, ministers as they minister the word of God. Pray for all the families and children in
the church. Pray for the church around the world. Pray that each and everyone in the Lord will
stay firm in the word of God till the end and will be blessed to enter the kingdom of God. Pray
that Gospel will be preached around the world as the most important standard.
Now I would remind you, brothers, of the gospel I preached to you, which you received, in
which you stand, and by which you are being saved, if you hold fast to the word I preached to
you—unless you believed in vain. For I delivered to you as of first importance what I also
received: that Christ died for our sins in accordance with the Scriptures, that he was buried, that
he was raised on the third day in accordance with the Scriptures, and that he appeared to
Cephas, then to the twelve. Then he appeared to more than five hundred brothers at one time,
most of whom are still alive, though some have fallen asleep. Then he appeared to James, then
to all the apostles. Last of all, as to one untimely born, he appeared also to me. For I am the
least of the apostles, unworthy to be called an apostle, because I persecuted the church of God.
But by the grace of God I am what I am, and his grace toward me was not in vain. On the
contrary, I worked harder than any of them, though it was not I, but the grace of God that is with
me. Whether then it was I or they, so we preach and so you believed. - 1 Corinthians 15:1-11
Wednesday: Pray for your Community - Take time to pray for those around you, the groups you
are in and pray for their needs and God will meet them at their points. Pray for those in your
workplaces, school, sports team, neighbors etc. Pray for those who have not received Christ as
their Savior, pray they will find Him.
Live in harmony with one another. Do not be proud, but be willing to associate with people of
low position. Do not be conceited. - Romans 12:16
For just as each of us has one body with many members, and these members do not all have
the same function, so in Christ we, though many, form one body, and each member belongs to
all the others. - Romans 12:4-5
Thursday: Pray for the Nation - Pray for those in authority. Pray they make wise decisions and
God's will for that nation. Honor everyone. Love the brotherhood. Fear God. Honor the emperor. - 1 Peter 2:17
Let every person be subject to the governing authorities. For there is no authority except from
God, and those that exist have been instituted by God." - Romans 13:1
Friday: Pray for the World - Pray that God will use His people to help others "to know Christ and
to make Him known."Pray for the persecuted church. Finally, pray for the advance of the Gospel
And this gospel of the kingdom will be preached in all the world as a witness to all the nations,
and then the end will come.- Matthew 24:14
Saturday: Pray for the Homeless, needy, the less fortunate - Take time to pray for the physically
and spiritually afflicted. Pray specifically for ministries that are reaching out to the helpless,
hopeless, hurting and lost.
For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him
shall not perish but have eternal life. - John 3:16
Sunday: Pray for Personal Guidance - Finally, take time to pray for your own personal needs.
Walk with God through every aspect of your life — your personal, family, work, community, and
church aspects of your life. Say, " Speak whatever to me, Lord, I'm listening!"
And it is my prayer that your love may abound more and more, with knowledge and all
discernment, so that you may approve what is excellent, and so be pure and blameless for the
day of Christ, filled with the fruit of righteousness that comes through Jesus Christ, to the glory
and praise of God. - Philippians 1:9-11
Prayer is the most important conversation of the day — with the Creator of the universe who is
there, who cares, and who listens with an ear to respond both for His glory and for the good of
Next week we will talk about the differences throughout the week and how our weeks went.
What changed in our prayer lives or relationships.
http://www.watermark.org/blog/how-to- be-a- godly-woman
https://www.desiringgod.org/articles/the-fourfold- beauty-of- a-godly- woman
https://www.desiringgod.org/topics/identity-in- christ#citizens-of- heaven
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